Jewish Matchmaking

So how do you find your bashert, your soul mate your predestined one?
From the beginning of Torah, as the Scripture reveals, that the Jewish people had kept and followed their sacred covenant with God.

Marriage was considered on of the holy and blessed events!


One the main traditions of Jewish people was a Matchmaking, and is a serious business, and considered a big Mitzvah for the person who is appointed to arrange marriages by introducing possible mates.

It was important for Jewish people to have a matchmaker in order to make the connections between two families for marriage.

The Matchmaker acted a liaison between potential mates; going back and force from the families discussing the arrangements and conditions of their children's marriage. The parents of the potential bride and groom would discuss the dowry and any other conditions that would make the deal.

Once the Jewish Matchmaker made the agreement between two families, the wedding arrangements would be made.
In the most religious families, the bride and groom would never see each other before the wedding day. The future bride and groom would only meet at the time of their wedding ceremony for the first time.

And in those times, the marriages did work whether it was for love or just for the sake of it. Jewish people had treated marriage as a consecrated covenant. Many marriages survived a lifetime!

Obviously, the times changed from the time of our ancestors;
as well as our overview on marriage, relationship and dating.
Would we be acquiring the service from a professional Jewish Matchmaker today? Not a bad idea if you ask me?

Now days, however the services of the Jewish Matchmaker would be
Altered in many ways. First of all, in any civilized society the potential mates would definitely want to meet each other first. Second, there would not be any negotiation between the families, because our parents should be giving us blessing and the advise; but we have to be the ones making a decision for life!
And the amount of dowry that would come with the bride, should be eliminated, since now days men and women both make the money!

The Jewish Matchmaker would obtain information about the bride and groom; their personality, carrier and hobbies.